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Recently, I’ve seen quite a few posts on SoSuave and other manosphere forums about Hypergamy and how important a role it plays in our current dating atmosphere in 2018.
Hypergamy, as it’s definition states, is “the action of marrying a person of a superior caste or class.”
However, in using it with respect to today’s Western civilization terms, it is an innate, involuntary response by females to seek out a mate of high quality. Most of the time, depending on her sexual market value and where she is in that process, she’ll either fall for the alpha male, or the best beta male she can get.
While this can be a daunting situation to deal with, for the beta male, it is insurmountable. With a beta male’s lack of confidence, lack of leadership, lack of masculinity, hypergamy takes no prisoners. Many a beta has seen his hopes dashed after a quick bout of oneitis has manifested itself, then turned into anger and frustration after his precious lady has jumped on an alpha’s cock. After all, Hypergamy doesn’t care.
So what is one to do? Many of the posts I’ve seen put hypergamy into an all powerful, unassailable obstacle. This drives men to claim they have no control over the effects of hypergamy, leading them down the path of incels, looksmaxing, and general misogyny.
So how can men react to this evolutionary ideal? By bettering themselves.
Look, I can’t give you a silver bullet. Women are driven by finding the best male they can. No matter how hard you try, there will always be someone better than you.
But, using self enrichment, you can become the best version of yourself, thereby increasing your chances with hotter and hotter women. Find a hobby. Focus on your career. WORK OUT. Read. Learn. When you have knowledge, you gain confidence. Women will start to take notice of your newest advantages. And suddenly, a woman in your life will not be the most important thing, just another benefit of your new outlook.
It works. Experience for me is the greatest teacher. Last year, I dated a girl for about 3 months and was a complete beta. She dumped me, and it was then I decided to work on me, find myself, learn, grow. Now, with this new found confidence, improved physique, and knowledge I’ve afforded myself, the attraction from other women is real.
Do this. It’s not a woman’s fault if she’s not attracted to you. It’s yours. Get off your ass and get to work.