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As I sit down to write this blog post, several things in my life are getting me thinking about personal responsibility, a concept I whole-heartedly support for everyone. I consider myself very conservative, and one man’s life is entirely in his hands, and his actions or lack thereof can directly affect his lot in life. Maturity is essential when a person accepts those situations where they have no control, and makes the most of the situations that they do.
So as a single father, business owner, and Red Pill aware male, personal responsibility is the cornerstone of my belief system. I am responsible for two children, a business, my employees, a household, and my own person. Needless to say, I could not attribute my success to anything but hard work, foresight, tireless planning, and self-discipline. But I wasn’t always this way…
There are some of you out there reading this that have had a rough go and blame your lot in life on outside forces. Some mysterious force, out of your control, that continues to deny you of what is rightfully yours, holding you back against your inevitable triumph. This is all bullshit.
There’s been an incredibly disturbing trend in modern Western society where victim hood has become all the rage. With nanny state governments, victim hood peddlers, and virtue signalers becoming more and more commonplace, the personal responsibility mantra has taken a hit. No one wants to be responsible, because it implies consequences. Fear and consequences are the biggest obstacles to overcome, because some humans (while debatable, yes) are naturally inclined to avoid conflict. No one wants to be at the target when the shit hits, and it’s becoming more and more acceptable to back down.
You become a better person when the buck stops with you.
I don’t take this responsibility lightly. People count on me everyday. My kids depend on me to hold a job, provide food, shelter, clothing, school supplies, and all other necessities needed to grow up in a stable environment. My employees depend on my expertise, resolve, decision making, and ability to lead to maintain the business so they can provide for their families and live a good life. They depend on me to do my job so they may earn a livelihood. My household depends on me to maintain cleanliness, upkeep, and repair. My own person needs a good diet, exercise, and sleep.
Personal responsibility is an important first step in the foundation of a greater life. As you build, more things are drawn to you, you become more successful, you become more reliable, and you will accomplish more of what you want. Also, when your starting out in your career, having reliability and self discipline (on time, work smart, dependability, ambition) will get you far, and these traits are the basis of a good personal responsibility belief.
When dating, this responsibility manifests itself into a good physique and confidence to attract, as well as solid personal beliefs that don’t sway when confronted with women who engage emotionally.
This belief system will be a natural filter for woman whom don’t fit your views, and will add to the effectiveness of “spinning plates” (h/t Rollo Tomassi) when you are dating many different types of women. Don’t be the beta loser, contemplating your lot in life instead of getting off your ass and making things happen. You’ll see your prospects dwindle with this outlook.
When in a LTR (Long term relationship), your own personal responsibility allows you to take on the natural gender role of leader, putting any relationship roles the woman doesn’t need to take to rest. You are the man, act like it. With a solid foundation of you taking care of you, everything will build off of that, and your relationship will be much stronger (and last longer, if you desire) with your self-reliance and personal responsibility leading the way.
When you take responsibility for your actions, words, and desires, you will inevitably piss off people. This is a fear most have as the desire for inclusiveness and acceptance is a human mantra that’s existed for many millennia. But you can still have those things, as a natural belief in yourself, your thoughts, your dreams, and your actions, will piss off the RIGHT people. If people are turned off by your persona and beliefs, they will go away, and those people that compliment your existence will be attracted to you.
So where to start? Start with you. Stand up for your beliefs, even in the face of criticism. Stop apologizing for your views. Own it. People will garner much more respect for you when you own your beliefs, your actions, and your words. But be prepared. Folks will be critical, they will ridicule, sometimes, as my anonymous brothers have found out, there will be threats of physical violence. But stand tall against the fierce wind. Your beliefs will always be yours, and no one can take that from you.