The Three Month Itch

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My recent experiences in dating have been some of the most interesting times of my life. When you start to date around, you tend to see patterns that set up. Whether it be the type of women you date or other encompassing traits that show themselves during and after the relationships, you can gradually become more comfortable dating knowing what to expect.

I stopped online dating altogether, just because the women on there think they’re all goddesses and the men on there worship them thusly. It’s a popularity contest with no winners, but as I get more into shape, I will be conducting an experiment sooner rather than later on these sites.

So I go with what I’ve been doing, which I think is much better, that is meeting women through business meetings, networking, social circles, and the occasional approach success I’ve had, which are going to become the main tactic as I get better at game.

So the social circles I hang out in are a mix of conservative and liberal types, and but lately I’ve been noticing a pattern in what I’ve been attracting. The independent, liberal career woman. They have all lined up over the past 2 years, and what’s interesting is with every relationship, it has started with this type of woman.

Her average age is 37, she’s making 6 figures, she has a Master’s degree, and she’s at a pretty good place in her professional life. As a business owner, I’m a pretty good target for these types of women, especially if they think I’m a “beta bucks” guy. They are attractive, confident, and live alone or have 1 child at most.

They’re embroiled in a later epiphany phase, or the phase they’ve got to start provisioning for their beta bucks male so they can have kids, and are trying everything they can to avoid the wall, which has already taken it’s toll on them.

They’re trying to pump up their value, unable to compete with women 15 years younger, by focusing on their careers, and trying to offer other incentives to secure a man.

I compare the epiphany phase to a game of musical chairs. Women are trying to land the best “beta bucks” prospect they can after a live of “Sex in the City” living. They’re trying to find their Mr. Big before the music stops. They want to have kids, live a lavish life, and settle down, but still in master control of their and their man’s lives.

The “Sex in the City” Generation

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When Sex in the City came out in 1998 and continued into the late 2000’s, it glorified promiscuity to women. It told them that they could live life like a man, and sleep with multiple partners with no consequences, and they after they were done, they could provision the best man, have children, and live lavishly with the man of their dreams.

They were in charge of their lives, and men were secondary to a fulfilling career, and kids were an after thought until they were less sassy at 43 or older.

So they dive head first into their careers, careening down a path of sex with many men, short relationships with men who don’t “measure up” to the type of man they wish to control in their lives, and still hope to meet that “Mr. Big” someday.

But a funny thing happened along the way to this “pinnacle” of modern feminism.

They wanted a family. They wanted kids. They thought it would all work out. And then it doesn’t. So here they are, at advanced ages to have kids, pining for all the men that they thought didn’t measure up, who now have moved on with younger women. They have families, and these women have nothing but their careers.

She’s successful, independent, but alone. Because everything that lifestyle promised was a lie.

The Itch They Have to Scratch

So this brings me back to my recent relationships. They have a lot of things in common:

  • They all involved highly successful, educated, liberal women
  • The relationships all lasted approximately three months each
  • They involved a power struggle between the woman and myself
  • They tappered off the same ways, with lack of interest and disconnecting

I even got a chance to have exit interviews with three out of the 4 women, asking specific questions that they answered very honestly.

Their answers will surprise you:

  • They were sexually very satisfied 🙂 with me. Both claimed it was some of the best sex they’ve had.
  • They did not like my political leanings (conservative) and this was one of the reasons that one of the women stopped showing interest in me.
  • They pick the three month time period to give them an opportunity to see if I’m marriage or LTR material (beta bucks provisioning with submissive tendencies).
  • One said I was too alpha. She didn’t want me dictating the relationship, as she was in control of her life and child and wanted to fit a beta submissive into her life, which she promptly did.
  • They would rather have control, be with a person who trumpets their own values over his, and continue to hold out for their “one”.
  • Liberal women, especially professionals, still believe the Sex in the City myth.
  • These women still think they can compete and win with women younger than them, even though two of them lost boyfriends to those same women.

So one woman was very up front about the fact that she wanted to control the relationship. She wanted a “yes” man to support her, and at 41, still believed her child rearing years were 2-3 years away. She just had to find the “perfect” guy for her. Her Mr. Big.

The other, a woman I had dated just after my divorce, said I was too submissive. This was before my unplugging. She stated that I would never make plans, and she was the one that always had to come up with things to do.

But as I was unplugging, I’ve noticed that women don’t necessarily want the alpha (which two of the other girls made comments about), but they want the beta bucks badly, but only as a support to their own pseudo-alpha feminine agenda.

It’s an interesting dynamic that I’ve been very curious about, as I’ve had 4 relationships, all at 3 months, that mimicked each other, more so the last three than the first when I was not quite unplugged yet.

One of the women was even a self proclaimed feminist. And when asked if she’d ever consider settling down with a conservative man, she stated “not in her lifetime.”

The Music Will Stop

So now, we come to the conclusion of my unintended experiment. Where are they now?

Well, two of them are still single, entering their 40’s still pining for the perfect man who will save them.

The other two now have beta bucks boyfriends, guys who jump when they say jump, and are content in their chosen musical chair.

The music stopped for them, and they chose the best they could get.

The funny thing about all of this is I hold no ill will towards any of these women. I’m a bit disappointed that power, personalities, and politics play such an integral part of dating these days, and the bile and hatred for conservative men (who are the best lovers) is real.

These women would rather die alone than be subjected to anyone outside of their echo chamber. But this is a topic for another time.

In closing, it’s time for women to start understanding that if they truly want to live a fulfilling life, then Sex in the City is not the life to lead.

These women are having buyer’s remorse about the life they were sold, and as they continue, many childless, they lose more ground everyday to men who won’t subscribe to their politics or power structure, or men who are more interested in younger, more fertile women.

They continue to hope that someday, their “Mr. Big” will come into their lives, and tell them that all of this was worth it.

What they don’t understand, until it’s too late, is it’s not worth it.

The music has stopped, and they’re without a seat.

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The Sexual Arms Race

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When the Sexual Revolution started in the 1960’s with the advent of birth control, women had a new found freedom from so called “sexual repression” and hypergamy really found it’s way to center stage.

Women were now free from having to settle for men that weren’t the best in their minds, and could actively explore and engage in sex whenever and with whoever they saw fit.

In short, birth control leveled the sexual playing field for men and women.

And while this momentous discovery changed the world forever as we know it, what we didn’t know is how it would affect us now, nearly 60 years later. The power struggle (or sexual arms race) between men and women throughout history has led to this current environment, and that I what I would like to talk about today.

The History of the Fight

From very early times, women were considered second class citizens, however, they were deitized by men, especially in Ancient Rome. The Roman social structure took the shape of the interaction between men and women, with overt operating men running all the households, government and military positions, while covertly women would handle the world behind the curtains.

With Christianity and Islam, the same held true. Women were worshipped for their abilities, but were not given positions of power. Monogamy was sacrosanct, and women were to do their duties in the household, playing support role to the man. Men were using religion and religious teachings to keep women in one place.

But birth control changed all of that. It gave women access to the world of a man, and it was applauded as a huge step towards equality. Women now had the freedom to live (at the time they were told) consequence free, just like a man. Hit it and quit it. And no pregnancy.

But what we didn’t realize is that we opened Pandora’s Box.

In terms of procreation, women were now let off the leash. Out of wedlock birth rates skyrocketed, as did the number of unwed mothers. It because a free for all, and those numbers continued to climb.

Men tried to counteract this newfound freedom by doubling down on religion and attempts to control that behavior. But the horses weren’t going back in the barn.

Hypergamy didn’t care. It was time to live life to the fullest, and in many people’s minds that was having as much consequence free sex as they could.

Men were staggering with each new blow. What could we do to get a woman now? The best candidates were having all the sex, and men were having to re-examine what they could do to compete in this new world.

Enter Game.

Changing the Landscape Again

Men were desperate to find a way to level the playing field again, so a group of socially backward men developed game. Game was a means for men who weren’t good looking, weren’t genetically gifted with height or penis size to have sex with women.

So men developed game, and RSD (Real Social Dynamics) and PUA as ways to compensate for their limitations. When 20% of the men are getting 80% of the women, the 80% of men had to come up with a way to make it feasible for their share of the pie to grow as well.

In the early 2000’s, it was all the rage. Men were paying thousands of dollars to learn game, and were being rewarded with many women.

This was our answer to try and close Pandora’s Box. Knowing the true natures of women, using the art of seduction, and firing back against hypergamy was extremely effective. It forced women to recalibrate their aims, because once again, men were trying to take control of the SMP, and it wasn’t going to happen on their watch.

They tried to claim pickup was a sleazy form of manipulation. It led to rape, misogyny, and objectification of women.

Men simply fired back that women objectified men as success objects. They were trying to bend the curve away from the 80% to focus on the 20%. Their biological imperatives needed to be reigned in. The fight continued.

Each gender was trying to get the sexual upper hand on the other.

It continues unimpeded today.

The Current Trends

Today, women control the sexual marketplace. They determine sexual availability with the best candidate in their eyes. They have tens to hundreds of orbiters around them, depending on their popularity.

When the MeToo movement was introduced, it was a platform for women to speak out against sexual predators, a real threat.

However, feminists have perverted it’s aims into another weapon against men.

Now, “enthusiastic consent” is the new buzzword for the feminine imperative, pushing hypergamy to all new levels.

Feminists are absolving themselves of any responsibility of sexual intercourse, sharing some gems like these on Twitter:

Feminists want women to live like men, but not be held accountable for their actions. It’s the “have their cake and eat it too” mentality that has caused such a rift between the sexes.

And men have had enough. The “Mike Pence” rule, as it’s so referred to, is a man refusing to be alone with a woman he works with as to not put himself in a bad situation. MeToo has weaponized sex so much, that men are afraid to talk to, interact with, or even have dinner with a woman for fear she’ll attempt to destroy them with false accusations. What are men to do? It’s a no win situation.

So how have and will men respond to this newest wave of weaponization of hypergamy in the gender arms race?

The Strength of No Action

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Men have simply responded to these new actions by feminism by simply choosing not to play the game.

There’s too much at stake for men, so they choose another path. They refuse to interact with such a toxic movement as feminism has become, and this has enraged feminists even more.

And this, ultimately, will be the long term answer. Men will leave to pursue women who appreciate them, rather than be villainized by a group of women who choose to have no responsibility or consequences in their actions.

Blaming men has always been the calling card of feminism, but with no men around to blame, you’ve now essentially neutered feminism.

When feminism doesn’t have an enemy to castigate, the whole movement will implode on itself. It’s already shrinking due to the constant demonization of men, and it’s perversions of MeToo and other movements will only accelerate it’s demise.

But it’s still unclear on what men do in the meantime. We have to continue to hold ourselves above the fray, but also appreciate the women that do support us and our movement.

I think a lot of this arms race would be solved with consequences. Actions without consequences are running the feminine imperative, and eventually the check has to come due.

When modern feminism has a say in the future of mankind, we see disastrous results.

Birth rates are dropping. People stopped having sex. Partly because men have stepped away and don’t want to play anymore. And also partly because women want to live consequence free life for their actions. With safety nets like child support, alimony, and the State, many women don’t feel the pain that comes from promiscuity without precaution.

And some men don’t feel the need to be fathers. Consequence free sex has made these men nothing by sexual shysters, grabbing what they can without fear of retribution, because of course the State will take care of his mistake.

There needs to be more accountability in the sexual marketplace, or Western Civilization is doomed to be overtaken by other forces.

But for now, both sides need to lay down their weapons and come to the table.

Only through communication can we resolve our deep rooted problems.

But that seems like a pipe dream.

It’s not hopeless, though. I’m hopeful the hatred of men by feminism will cause it to re-assess the values men bring to the world.

And maybe men and women can have a lasting peace.