The Sexual Arms Race

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When the Sexual Revolution started in the 1960’s with the advent of birth control, women had a new found freedom from so called “sexual repression” and hypergamy really found it’s way to center stage.

Women were now free from having to settle for men that weren’t the best in their minds, and could actively explore and engage in sex whenever and with whoever they saw fit.

In short, birth control leveled the sexual playing field for men and women.

And while this momentous discovery changed the world forever as we know it, what we didn’t know is how it would affect us now, nearly 60 years later. The power struggle (or sexual arms race) between men and women throughout history has led to this current environment, and that I what I would like to talk about today.

The History of the Fight

From very early times, women were considered second class citizens, however, they were deitized by men, especially in Ancient Rome. The Roman social structure took the shape of the interaction between men and women, with overt operating men running all the households, government and military positions, while covertly women would handle the world behind the curtains.

With Christianity and Islam, the same held true. Women were worshipped for their abilities, but were not given positions of power. Monogamy was sacrosanct, and women were to do their duties in the household, playing support role to the man. Men were using religion and religious teachings to keep women in one place.

But birth control changed all of that. It gave women access to the world of a man, and it was applauded as a huge step towards equality. Women now had the freedom to live (at the time they were told) consequence free, just like a man. Hit it and quit it. And no pregnancy.

But what we didn’t realize is that we opened Pandora’s Box.

In terms of procreation, women were now let off the leash. Out of wedlock birth rates skyrocketed, as did the number of unwed mothers. It because a free for all, and those numbers continued to climb.

Men tried to counteract this newfound freedom by doubling down on religion and attempts to control that behavior. But the horses weren’t going back in the barn.

Hypergamy didn’t care. It was time to live life to the fullest, and in many people’s minds that was having as much consequence free sex as they could.

Men were staggering with each new blow. What could we do to get a woman now? The best candidates were having all the sex, and men were having to re-examine what they could do to compete in this new world.

Enter Game.

Changing the Landscape Again

Men were desperate to find a way to level the playing field again, so a group of socially backward men developed game. Game was a means for men who weren’t good looking, weren’t genetically gifted with height or penis size to have sex with women.

So men developed game, and RSD (Real Social Dynamics) and PUA as ways to compensate for their limitations. When 20% of the men are getting 80% of the women, the 80% of men had to come up with a way to make it feasible for their share of the pie to grow as well.

In the early 2000’s, it was all the rage. Men were paying thousands of dollars to learn game, and were being rewarded with many women.

This was our answer to try and close Pandora’s Box. Knowing the true natures of women, using the art of seduction, and firing back against hypergamy was extremely effective. It forced women to recalibrate their aims, because once again, men were trying to take control of the SMP, and it wasn’t going to happen on their watch.

They tried to claim pickup was a sleazy form of manipulation. It led to rape, misogyny, and objectification of women.

Men simply fired back that women objectified men as success objects. They were trying to bend the curve away from the 80% to focus on the 20%. Their biological imperatives needed to be reigned in. The fight continued.

Each gender was trying to get the sexual upper hand on the other.

It continues unimpeded today.

The Current Trends

Today, women control the sexual marketplace. They determine sexual availability with the best candidate in their eyes. They have tens to hundreds of orbiters around them, depending on their popularity.

When the MeToo movement was introduced, it was a platform for women to speak out against sexual predators, a real threat.

However, feminists have perverted it’s aims into another weapon against men.

Now, “enthusiastic consent” is the new buzzword for the feminine imperative, pushing hypergamy to all new levels.

Feminists are absolving themselves of any responsibility of sexual intercourse, sharing some gems like these on Twitter:

Feminists want women to live like men, but not be held accountable for their actions. It’s the “have their cake and eat it too” mentality that has caused such a rift between the sexes.

And men have had enough. The “Mike Pence” rule, as it’s so referred to, is a man refusing to be alone with a woman he works with as to not put himself in a bad situation. MeToo has weaponized sex so much, that men are afraid to talk to, interact with, or even have dinner with a woman for fear she’ll attempt to destroy them with false accusations. What are men to do? It’s a no win situation.

So how have and will men respond to this newest wave of weaponization of hypergamy in the gender arms race?

The Strength of No Action

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Men have simply responded to these new actions by feminism by simply choosing not to play the game.

There’s too much at stake for men, so they choose another path. They refuse to interact with such a toxic movement as feminism has become, and this has enraged feminists even more.

And this, ultimately, will be the long term answer. Men will leave to pursue women who appreciate them, rather than be villainized by a group of women who choose to have no responsibility or consequences in their actions.

Blaming men has always been the calling card of feminism, but with no men around to blame, you’ve now essentially neutered feminism.

When feminism doesn’t have an enemy to castigate, the whole movement will implode on itself. It’s already shrinking due to the constant demonization of men, and it’s perversions of MeToo and other movements will only accelerate it’s demise.

But it’s still unclear on what men do in the meantime. We have to continue to hold ourselves above the fray, but also appreciate the women that do support us and our movement.

I think a lot of this arms race would be solved with consequences. Actions without consequences are running the feminine imperative, and eventually the check has to come due.

When modern feminism has a say in the future of mankind, we see disastrous results.

Birth rates are dropping. People stopped having sex. Partly because men have stepped away and don’t want to play anymore. And also partly because women want to live consequence free life for their actions. With safety nets like child support, alimony, and the State, many women don’t feel the pain that comes from promiscuity without precaution.

And some men don’t feel the need to be fathers. Consequence free sex has made these men nothing by sexual shysters, grabbing what they can without fear of retribution, because of course the State will take care of his mistake.

There needs to be more accountability in the sexual marketplace, or Western Civilization is doomed to be overtaken by other forces.

But for now, both sides need to lay down their weapons and come to the table.

Only through communication can we resolve our deep rooted problems.

But that seems like a pipe dream.

It’s not hopeless, though. I’m hopeful the hatred of men by feminism will cause it to re-assess the values men bring to the world.

And maybe men and women can have a lasting peace.

2 thoughts on “The Sexual Arms Race

  1. Muncie here. The concept of hypergamy is a basic concept that every boy should have explained to him. Now that I understand it, I can go back and see how it has played out in my life. My parents marriage, my own marriage. Even on the Brady Bunch. Haha.

    Understanding it is the first step if we want relationships to last. When we don’t, problems happen for us. Now I understand the game and can play and am getting better at it. We can still mess up, but as long as we play it right a lot more than we don’t. We should get the life we want.

    As men we cannot assume that the modern woman will even want to understand why they feel or act the way they act. That would mean they would have to be introspective which many times only comes from something they care about crumbling down or with the threat of loss of that something. ie consequences. It’s ingrained in society now.

    Any change starts with us men. We have to manage the “game” that is being played they want to feel like you are more than what they could get if they had to go back out there. They need to know that other women would steal you if they could. When my wife thought I had tons of options and opportunity, I got what I wanted and surprisingly she got what she wanted. As her thoughts shifted to I could do better than him, she became bitchy and moody. Her libido crashed. Guess what, she did not get what she wanted. It was constant fighting.

    The train will always be moving down the tracks. It’s which direction is it going. Is it towards the life you want or towards the inferno.

    This space does not understand that It’s not alpha or beta. Red pill or blue pill. It is doing what works to get you the result that you want out of your life. If you want to see changes in your relationship, change yourself. Make yourself the best man you can be. Run what we called psychological operations in the army. Do the things to get the result that you want. If it doesn’t work, change your tactic to one that works.

    To your point, The lack of consequences is a big reason for the degradation of marriage and the increase in single motherhood. To make it simple, we don’t “need” each other to live life. the baby boomers are the first generation maybe ever where marriage was strictly about feelings and not from mutual need. It happens to correspond with the increase in divorce, single mothers, depression, etc. maybe it’s not causation but there is correlation.

    I think the solution is to take it from man to man. Help them to understand hypergamy and how the SMP works. Give them the tools to identify what is needed for them to get what we want out of relationships, dating or by themselves. Quit making covert contracts. Quit acting like the volatile teenager and act like Ward Cleaver. Calm cool collected most of the time. And don’t be too hard on the beaver.

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