The Sale

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So, you’ve decided to go to a new church. You’ve heard great things about it. Your friends are raving about the spiritual content, the great speakers, the fantastic music, and the real down home community feel.

It’s a startup church, just working on building it’s flock. How are they going to persuade you to come to their church? They don’t have the main church built yet, so they’re having to use a school auditorium for Sunday service, but the people are great, and they really focus on positive aspects of the religion they believe in. But they have other great aspects that they showcase. A great priest and message, good music, a welcoming environment, and other bonuses make this church one of the best up and coming places to worship.

So why go? You’re curious. You want to see more. You want to explore and know why and how they praise their God. You want to see if you have things in common with the congregation. You want to feel comfortable with as much as you can before you commit. You won’t give money to an organization you don’t trust. So you try to do as much homework as you can to make sure you make the right choice.

So with this in mind, think about sales in general. How is this church going to continue to exist? With money. With donations. With a flock. They have to get butts in the pews or they’ll fold. So they have to give you options and attractive things to want to donate to. This isn’t manipulation, it’s the church knowing human nature and how to sell. If they do well, they’ll survive and thrive. If they don’t, it’s closing the doors.

When a life coach sells you on a positive mind set training book, or a psychic sells you on being able to talk to spirits, or Taco Bell sells you on a taco shell made out of a Dorito, you are being presented with a choice to partake in said activity for money, or not. You can easily walk out and go somewhere else. But at that moment, you have a choice. Now, many of these sales people will try to sweeten the deal by studying how humans generally react to certain sales tactics, or they’ll practice other tricks of the trade to try to close the sale. And many will fail, but some do better than others. Why?

Simple. They’ve studied human nature. Advertisers spent decades not only perfecting their product, but also making you want it. Not because they’re manipulating you, but because they just play the game better than others do. They know the rules and they push every avenue to win over their client base from the competition.

This isn’t using cheat codes, this is just someone who’s practiced, understands reactions, and knows how to sell his product. You just have to be smart enough to see through the bullshit.

Lately, there has been a misnomer to game and PUA (pick up artistry) that it’s manipulation, pure and simple. However, it isn’t. It never has been.

“Coffee’s For Closers”

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Pickup / Game started when a bunch of dorks, geeks, nerds, and sexually irrelevant men decided that hypergamy and female sexual empowerment wasn’t going to leave them out in the cold. They wanted sex with hot girls (as most men want) and they weren’t going to let their limitations hold them back. So they studied. And they practiced. And they used canned lines to elicit emotional reactions from females. They were shot down, but more and more, as they got better at their craft. They learned about human nature, learned about advertising their strengths and masking their weaknesses. They got so good they would go to great lengths to sell themselves. Mystery, quite possibly the greatest PUA of all time, used to dress in high platform heels, black everything, black top hat, black fingernail polish. No woman in a million years would go to bed with him, right?

Wrong. He made the case that PUA is sales, pure and simple. Many women bought and bought often. Many did not. But one thing’s for sure, women who slept with him didn’t have buyer’s remorse. They WANTED to sleep with him, they wanted what he was selling, and they lined up for it. They were unapologetic about it, even going so far as to share him with other women. Why? He was selling a good product.

In my excellent article “The Sexual Arms Race“, I talk about what men had to do to respond to female sexual empowerment and hypergamy being let off the leash in the 60’s and 70′. They had to adapt. There were many men who were going to be left out in the cold when it came to having sex with beautiful women, so (and some PUA’s from back then should today be considered autistic) nerds, dweebs and geeks analytically attacked a problem and studied it. And the sale they came up with was better than guys who had been naturally better with women by a country mile. They tapped into human nature and studied, practiced getting shot down but building their confidence, and at the pinnacle of their success, would snatch girls away from men who were considered higher value or even celebrity.

Did these men plant key phrases in these women to get them to do things? Did they hypnotize them and make them go against their will? Did they trick them into sleeping with them?

Hardly. They merely practiced and learned to play the game better than their competition. And women were buying. Many women.

Making The Sale

“What differentiates sellers today is their ability to bring fresh ideas.” -Jill Konrath

Back in the early parts of this century, PUA was gaining a foothold because guys were trying sales tactics that no one had ever thought of trying. Sales, in all of it’s intricacies, is at it’s heart about persistence. You have to keep getting up and going out there, believing in you, your product, and your company. You’re not going to reach anyone if you don’t get in front of them.

This is the absolute heart and soul of game and PUA teaching. The whole idea of canned lines, routines, and other tactics was to get you in front of women, get you confident in yourself in those women, and get you confident in the product that was you. That’s it. It wasn’t some elaborate scheme to trick someone into sleeping with you, nor was it a pyramid scheme to steal anything from anyone.

It was just a bunch of guys wanted to get laid by pretty girls.

They made the sale in their own ways. Mystery and Style (Neil Strauss) used pea-cocking. Ross Jefferies used speed seduction. Tyler Durden and the gang used Real Social Dynamics. The bottom line of all of these? A way of selling a product. That product is you. And some women don’t buy, and some women do. The point? They buy because there’s a demand for the product, not because the product hypnotizes them into doing something they don’t want to do.

Sales becomes manipulation when the outcome isn’t what the buyer wanted or expected.

There’s an old saying in my industry that “you can’t buy a steak from McDonald’s”. If you know what you’re buying, you can’t be upset when the product isn’t as good as you thought. As with everything, you as the buyer need to research your purchases, not get mad when the product doesn’t live up to unreal expectations that you had.

When women call PUA or game, manipulation, they are essentially participating in buyer’s remorse. They were sold a product that didn’t live up to it’s billing, so they claim they were coerced into buying in. That way, they can’t be blamed for making a bad choice, and they can demonize a group of guys who simply wanted to have sex with hot girls by trying to sell themselves. The women will claim a “mystical, back door, shady” approach is what sold them, when they could’ve easily walked away and taken their “money” somewhere else.

We are seeing a society today that holds businesses to an unbelievable standard. They want service quick, food hot, and an amazing experience, or they’ll be on Yelp! quicker than you can say “bad customer review.”

Businesses are adapting but we quickly blame others for our own failures and shortcomings in actually researching what we buy. And when we get burned? We bad mouth the establishment and make it their problem. Same principle applies to dating, game and pick up.

Women realize they’ve been sold something they shouldn’t have bought, so they claim poor product, rather than taking the time to understand why they bought this. They state they were clearly “tricked”, “manipulated”, or other reasons because they wouldn’t be caught dead having sex with this “loser”. “I’m better than this,” she says to herself. She’s been manipulated by a dork. But what she doesn’t understand is that she made that choice to sleep with him.

So, remember this ladies. No one is manipulating you. No one is tricking you into sleeping with them. You have free will to walk away and not buy, and many of your colleagues do this every day to guys coming up to them. So why are you different? You aren’t.

If a product, slogan, or advertisement controls your free will and choice, perhaps you need to not be as pliable to those techniques and be more mindful of your personal choices and wants.

Stop having buyer’s remorse and blaming the PUA and game community for “manipulating” you when they are only selling a product. Take responsibility for your own actions and you will be certain the next product you “buy” will be one you actually like.

The Sexual Arms Race

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When the Sexual Revolution started in the 1960’s with the advent of birth control, women had a new found freedom from so called “sexual repression” and hypergamy really found it’s way to center stage.

Women were now free from having to settle for men that weren’t the best in their minds, and could actively explore and engage in sex whenever and with whoever they saw fit.

In short, birth control leveled the sexual playing field for men and women.

And while this momentous discovery changed the world forever as we know it, what we didn’t know is how it would affect us now, nearly 60 years later. The power struggle (or sexual arms race) between men and women throughout history has led to this current environment, and that I what I would like to talk about today.

The History of the Fight

From very early times, women were considered second class citizens, however, they were deitized by men, especially in Ancient Rome. The Roman social structure took the shape of the interaction between men and women, with overt operating men running all the households, government and military positions, while covertly women would handle the world behind the curtains.

With Christianity and Islam, the same held true. Women were worshipped for their abilities, but were not given positions of power. Monogamy was sacrosanct, and women were to do their duties in the household, playing support role to the man. Men were using religion and religious teachings to keep women in one place.

But birth control changed all of that. It gave women access to the world of a man, and it was applauded as a huge step towards equality. Women now had the freedom to live (at the time they were told) consequence free, just like a man. Hit it and quit it. And no pregnancy.

But what we didn’t realize is that we opened Pandora’s Box.

In terms of procreation, women were now let off the leash. Out of wedlock birth rates skyrocketed, as did the number of unwed mothers. It because a free for all, and those numbers continued to climb.

Men tried to counteract this newfound freedom by doubling down on religion and attempts to control that behavior. But the horses weren’t going back in the barn.

Hypergamy didn’t care. It was time to live life to the fullest, and in many people’s minds that was having as much consequence free sex as they could.

Men were staggering with each new blow. What could we do to get a woman now? The best candidates were having all the sex, and men were having to re-examine what they could do to compete in this new world.

Enter Game.

Changing the Landscape Again

Men were desperate to find a way to level the playing field again, so a group of socially backward men developed game. Game was a means for men who weren’t good looking, weren’t genetically gifted with height or penis size to have sex with women.

So men developed game, and RSD (Real Social Dynamics) and PUA as ways to compensate for their limitations. When 20% of the men are getting 80% of the women, the 80% of men had to come up with a way to make it feasible for their share of the pie to grow as well.

In the early 2000’s, it was all the rage. Men were paying thousands of dollars to learn game, and were being rewarded with many women.

This was our answer to try and close Pandora’s Box. Knowing the true natures of women, using the art of seduction, and firing back against hypergamy was extremely effective. It forced women to recalibrate their aims, because once again, men were trying to take control of the SMP, and it wasn’t going to happen on their watch.

They tried to claim pickup was a sleazy form of manipulation. It led to rape, misogyny, and objectification of women.

Men simply fired back that women objectified men as success objects. They were trying to bend the curve away from the 80% to focus on the 20%. Their biological imperatives needed to be reigned in. The fight continued.

Each gender was trying to get the sexual upper hand on the other.

It continues unimpeded today.

The Current Trends

Today, women control the sexual marketplace. They determine sexual availability with the best candidate in their eyes. They have tens to hundreds of orbiters around them, depending on their popularity.

When the MeToo movement was introduced, it was a platform for women to speak out against sexual predators, a real threat.

However, feminists have perverted it’s aims into another weapon against men.

Now, “enthusiastic consent” is the new buzzword for the feminine imperative, pushing hypergamy to all new levels.

Feminists are absolving themselves of any responsibility of sexual intercourse, sharing some gems like these on Twitter:

Feminists want women to live like men, but not be held accountable for their actions. It’s the “have their cake and eat it too” mentality that has caused such a rift between the sexes.

And men have had enough. The “Mike Pence” rule, as it’s so referred to, is a man refusing to be alone with a woman he works with as to not put himself in a bad situation. MeToo has weaponized sex so much, that men are afraid to talk to, interact with, or even have dinner with a woman for fear she’ll attempt to destroy them with false accusations. What are men to do? It’s a no win situation.

So how have and will men respond to this newest wave of weaponization of hypergamy in the gender arms race?

The Strength of No Action

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Men have simply responded to these new actions by feminism by simply choosing not to play the game.

There’s too much at stake for men, so they choose another path. They refuse to interact with such a toxic movement as feminism has become, and this has enraged feminists even more.

And this, ultimately, will be the long term answer. Men will leave to pursue women who appreciate them, rather than be villainized by a group of women who choose to have no responsibility or consequences in their actions.

Blaming men has always been the calling card of feminism, but with no men around to blame, you’ve now essentially neutered feminism.

When feminism doesn’t have an enemy to castigate, the whole movement will implode on itself. It’s already shrinking due to the constant demonization of men, and it’s perversions of MeToo and other movements will only accelerate it’s demise.

But it’s still unclear on what men do in the meantime. We have to continue to hold ourselves above the fray, but also appreciate the women that do support us and our movement.

I think a lot of this arms race would be solved with consequences. Actions without consequences are running the feminine imperative, and eventually the check has to come due.

When modern feminism has a say in the future of mankind, we see disastrous results.

Birth rates are dropping. People stopped having sex. Partly because men have stepped away and don’t want to play anymore. And also partly because women want to live consequence free life for their actions. With safety nets like child support, alimony, and the State, many women don’t feel the pain that comes from promiscuity without precaution.

And some men don’t feel the need to be fathers. Consequence free sex has made these men nothing by sexual shysters, grabbing what they can without fear of retribution, because of course the State will take care of his mistake.

There needs to be more accountability in the sexual marketplace, or Western Civilization is doomed to be overtaken by other forces.

But for now, both sides need to lay down their weapons and come to the table.

Only through communication can we resolve our deep rooted problems.

But that seems like a pipe dream.

It’s not hopeless, though. I’m hopeful the hatred of men by feminism will cause it to re-assess the values men bring to the world.

And maybe men and women can have a lasting peace.

The RPD Approach / Game Report #1 – Starting Again

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So as this is a blog about all things Red Pill, I wanted to start a new segment this week for all of my new readers.

As most of you know, I am very much involved in the dating game. I am a single dad, and as a such, I’ve been trying to learn game. Being married for a decade, and of course not being unplugged in the first place, my embarrassing exploits are cataloged on several of my blog posts. However, I’ve realized the error of my ways since unplugging and as an early 40’s single man, I’m exploring the world of dating with a new found vigor.

I’ve been learning game from many of my red pilled brethren, and I wanted to post updates on my progress for everyone to see.

As I have told you, my goal is for you to get a real sense of what it’s like to be in my life, as I confront challenges, learn new skills, approach women, and live my new life as a Red Pill aware man.

Where Can I Learn Game?

There are many resources for men to learn game. I’ve been using several good references for my game practice. But I’ve been trying to learn it from several sources, especially trying to see what works for me. Rather than just googling “PUA techniques” which will of course get you some idea on what to do, I’ve been going through several avenues. So let’s start with books that gave me a good background while I’m out there:

  • The Rational Male series – Rollo Tomassi: Obviously I have a soft spot for Rollo as his book was the reason I became unplugged in the first place. Knowing the world of the Red Pill is a huge first step, and these books deliver that is spades.
  • The Game – Neil Strauss: This is the quintessential read for anyone looking to see what the PUA community is all about. A very good read for some history on game and who plays it.
  • The Art of Seduction – Robert Greene: A very good primer on all things seduction. Greene really drives home methods of seduction, describing types of seducers and each of their preferred methods.
  • Mode One – Alan Roger Currie: A quality book detailing Currie’s preferred pickup motif, direct communication. I’ve read it twice now and have employed techniques in this book.
  • The Mystery Method – Mystery: Quite possibly the most famous PUA wrote a book on pick up, and it’s very good. I recommend it.
  • The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida: A great primer into the mindset men have to have when dealing with women, career, and life in general. I can’t say enough good things about this book.

I have several game gurus on my side bar as well for good reference. There are hundreds of other books by authors like RooshV, Mark Manson, Pook, and others that can give you information.

Why Do I Need to Learn Game?

Game transcends all things in your life. It’s not only good for picking up women, but is also good for advancing your career, and good for getting you to your purpose. It promotes and builds confidence, which is the number one factor that is invaluable for you to have with any endeavor.

Also, as in my case, online dating is a cop out for a beta looking to be plugged back in. Most men don’t like to date, they want to be dominated by a woman in their life so they can talk about sports, play golf, or play video games.

But men who actually want something out of life MUST learn some sort of game. They have to be able to handle themselves with different types of people in different situations. It’s one thing for a man to go through the motions, quite another for one to be a trailblazing leader of men. This is why game is so important. It gives you the skills to be a badass.

So I’ve Learned About Game, Now What?

Well, now you have to do what I did. I would also do it concurrently so that you’re learning on multiple fronts. The concurrent steps are:

  • Get your ass to the gym and
  • Start practicing your approaches!

These are both key in your grasp of game. Why? Because:

  • Going to the gym will improve your physique and grow your confidence
  • Practicing approaching women will increase your knowledge and improve your game with women

I am doing both of these things more and more. I go to the gym 4 days a week, for about 1 1/2 to 2 hours at a time.

I also have been approaching women. I’m all for cold approaches, however, I’m more of an IOI (Indictor of Interest) type of approacher. Cold approaches work in terms of sheer numbers, but for guys like me with a tough time finding good times to just do this, the IOI approach can be golden, you just need to know what to look for. BestPUATraining.com is a good start for looking for IOI’s.

The bottom line on IOI’s is sustained eye contact from a woman, as well as a smile from her.

The best way to start your game is to have three things down pat:

  • Eye contact
  • Open Mind
  • SMILE!

Keep practicing, going to the gym, and boosting your confidence. You’ll find your preferred method with study, practice, and adjustments.

How Do I Meet Women?

So, you’re like me. You’re 35-45, you’ve learned about game, but where in the hell do you go to meet women? Online dating, in my opinion, should not be a primary source of your approaches. Most of what I’ve found in online dating are girls with emotional issues, fatties, or spam. It’s convenient, which is why it’s not a good source of women. You gotta work for it (you knew I would say that, didn’t you?).

At best, online dating should be supplementing your social life. It should never be a primary catalyst for meeting women.

You have to get out of your shell. If it just means going to a bar, sitting by yourself and having a drink, then so be it. Here are some ways I’ve been meeting women recently:

  • I took a yoga class. Not only do you meet women, but they are fit and you get in shape.
  • I’ve increased my social circle. Whether it be through work, finding hobbies that you share with other men, joining clubs, the gym, etc. Meeting new people always opens up the possibility of meeting new WOMEN.
  • Go (by myself, yes) to bars, clubs, coffee shops, and restaurants. Being able to be comfortable with yourself is a giant weight off of your shoulders in the quest for game.
  • As you get into shape, do other classes, or join a Brazilian Ju Jitsu or boxing club. Knowing how to fight increases your confidence, as well as putting you in better shape.
  • OCR Racing or other activities are a great way to meet fit women. I do Spartan, which allows me to travel to events and meeting hot girls.
  • Networking through your business. As a business owner, this is invaluable, not only for growing potential business leads, but also for meeting women. Many of these events are at bars, pubs, or restaurants, and the women come with the turf.

These are just a sample of the many things you could do. There are hundreds of other examples.

RPD Field Report #1

So with the quick and dirty about game out of the way, let’s start with my first approaches while learning game. Here are some of what I’ve encountered.

I’ve had about 21 approaches in the past three weeks, most have happened at bars, pubs, yoga class, and four happened at my networking events. I will detail a few that I’ve found success with:

  • I was at a networking event and I noticed an 8 looking at me. I kept eye contact, and then smiled. We held the look for a few more seconds, then I approached. She was distracted by another person, so I interrupted and asked her if she wanted a drink. I whisked her away to another part of the bar, talked with her for about 30 minutes, and closed with a number.
  • I was at my local pub drinking when a 7 came up to me and asked me if I was looking at her (I wasn’t, I was actually looking at another girl, I didn’t even notice her, lol), and I replied, “No, but I’m looking at you now.” She laughed, sat down, and I closed with her number.
  • I was flirting with a bartender at a club and had just learned palm reading (or that’s what I told her) and she watched me as I clumsily tried to read her palm. She was flattered and I closed with her number.
  • I asked a girl out I had been flirting with (a solid 7 server) and she replied with “I’m just so busy, I don’t know if I can.” My response was “You’re not busy enough for me.” She gave me her number.

These are just a few of the examples of my closes. As I learn and gain more confidence, it will only get better.

I’ve also had several approaches that have ended in her walking away in disinterest. There have been many (75%) of these approaches that have resulted in shitty rejections, but the one thing you have to do is shrug it off and realize it’s not a slam against you, it’s a slam against your game. One girl called me a fat ass and said she doesn’t date fat guys, another girl said I looked like a nerd she picked on in college (keep in mind I’m 43, 6’4″ and about 260 lbs). So you will get rejected, A LOT. Keep at it.

Remember, Rollo always says “Rejection is better than regret.”

Online Dating as a Supplement

As an experiment, I am supplementing my game with Tinder. My goal right now is to meet lots of different types of women, and with an app that allows me to do that on a swipe, I had to take advantage of the convenience. Now, I will tell you that Tinder is a shit show. There are tons of fatties, especially where I’m at, and emotionally challenged women from all walks of life. As you begin dating again like I do, you’ll learn to spot those types and swipe left.

My preconditions:

  • no fatties
  • anything with a Snapchat filter is automatically swipe left
  • profiles without full body shots is a swipe left
  • Anything where there are pictures of every body part except face is swipe left

So I know a lot of you don’t approve of online dating, but in the spirit of meeting as many women as I can, it’s proven to be a hot bed, especially since I’m tall (6’4″) and muscled out. But my filters have helped as well.

Dating as The Red Pill Dad

So there’s a brief glimpse of what I’m dealing with as a 40-something navigating the dating pool in the Midwest. I will continue to produce these reports as I get the time, and will report my triumphs and setbacks. I want you all to see what I deal with in real time, with real time results. If I can do anything, I want to convince all of you that you can do this, and you can do it well.

Time will tell with me personally. But I’m already off to a great start, and have achieved more in 6 months than I could’ve possibly imagined.

Leagues

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As the new year is upon us, I have taken some time off to get my mind right, as well as get ready for my upcoming podcast.  However, I wanted to fire off a quick blog post, discussing something that I had mentioned on my twitter feed, and a topic that has been discussed at length in the manosphere.
Also, the topic of today’s blog, that of “leagues”, was the center of a heated debate among my family during the holiday break.  As my last relationship ended, many in my circle were very supportive of me, but the questions arose about the “type” of woman I was looking for.  
Was I “aiming too high”?  Convinced that I was not “being realistic” about the type of women I “needed” to start looking at?  Were they “out of my league”?
This begs the question, “What are leagues and how do they work?”
No doubt you’ve heard the expression, “She’s out of your league.”  It’s an expression that basically equates to a girl being too attractive for certain class of guys.   The HB Scale, which I’ve talked about on here briefly, show’s where a woman lands on a man’s scale of attractiveness.  Women obviously have a way to gauge a man’s attractiveness, and as looks, personality, and game go, they are very important in the world.  There’s no getting around it.
But what makes leagues so important is that thanks to hypergamy and the feminine imperative (FI), they have been implemented to have men pre-qualify themselves before even approaching a woman.  The simple statement of “she’s out of your league” tells a man to not even try to approach an HB 8-9 because he’s been convinced the best he can ever get is a 6 or 7.
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This is done on purpose.  The reason you see many of the memes and comics today of women at the office dismissing (or even reporting) a unattractive beta male who compliments her versus a hot alpha who compliments her and she’s in bed with that same night, is because of hypergamy, and the use of leagues (hence the double standard).  
Men are naturally polygamous, women are naturally hypergamous.  This makes the use of leagues as just another buffer for women to get the best possible mate.  There are always exceptions to these rules, of course, but human nature doesn’t lie.
So what does this mean?  It means the sooner you know a woman’s true nature (red pill), the sooner you can understand that one of the many ways women pre-screen their male choices is by creating the “league”.  As Rollo and Michelangelo stated, “it’s not that you aim too high and miss, it’s that you aim too low and succeed.”
The bottom line:  As soon as you realize that leagues are an invention to dismiss your worth to a woman, the sooner you realize that you can have any woman you want.  Any woman.
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. Michelangelo
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Know Your Worth and Increase It

Of course, Rollo has a great deal to speak about leagues, but I bring this up because of what happened to me personally.  As I have been dating quite a bit, I have bumped up against this use by some women of the “out of your league”, but I’ve never really spoke about it until the debate with some of my family over the holiday.
As the topic came up, it dealt with the class of woman that I have been dating, or attempting to date.  A comment was made that I need to “stay in my lane” in terms of women, by my ex-wife as it turned out (I am still very good friends with her).  Her ideas of the type of woman I would date were out of whack, as well as funded in fantasy.  My last relationship was with an HB 7-8, and this surprised certain members of my family.  But you can see the underlying codex, that of leagues, permeates the fabric of dating life.  
It shows you just how much the FI affects the world in pursuit of their goals.
The statements made were mostly about the type of girl I should be looking for, rather than the type of girl I want.  And while I understand the concern of my family as they feel like I’ll be let down but thinking I can have any woman, I can also attest to the fact that I won’t disqualify myself without giving it a shot.  And Wayne Gretsky stated, “We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.”  But my success with women has increased a ton just by throwing off what I am “supposed” to do and not “staying in my lane.”
But this realization also comes with a side of cold, hard truths.  Knowing what you know about leagues still won’t get you into bed with an HB9.  And bagging such a woman should not be your primary goal. 

You need to work.  Work on yourself.  Work on your physique, work on your game, work on you.  You’ll find that if your self improvement is primary goal, the secondary goals will start becoming easier, especially when gaming women.  Nothing substitutes for hard work.  When you up yourself, you make the percentages of success that much more attainable.

Women are people, just like you and I.  They are nothing special, and those that think they are delude themselves and their followers.  The more you approach women, the more comfortable you get with it.  The notion of a league is an invented nonsense.  The sooner you realize that, the better.
So, as you go into this new year, remove another imagined barrier between yourself and the girls you want.   
There is no such thing as a league.